Grace Notes

GRACE NOTE: n. in theater, a small gesture, evocative of character. / GRACE: n. unmerited divine favor. / NOTE: 1.v. to observe with care. 2.v. to preserve in writing. 3.n. an informal record.

Name: Tara
Location: The Ivory Tower

Friday, May 23, 2008

Two Boons

1. Courtesy of AC's new sleep patterns, I got a total of over 9 hours of sleep last night. I am in an unbelievably good mood--did I used to feel this energized all the time?

2. Yesterday, for over 24 hours, I got no email. Yeah--summer has definitely begun!

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Sleeping Around

The second question everybody asks, after "How are you all doing?" is "How is she sleeping?" On that front, we do finally have some good news to report, which is that for the last two nights, Allison Clare has slept for 7 1/2 hours and 6 hours respectively. I actually got over 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep two nights ago. In the morning, I felt like Superwoman!

We're crediting the bedtime routine with it, at least in part. During her first 5-6 weeks, she was just uncomfortable ALL THE TIME with gassiness and we let her sleep whenever she could get comfortable enough to do so. Then there were a few weeks of colicky evenings as things settled down, but by 8 or 9 weeks, we started getting her to bed every night by 9:00--I put her into an overnight diaper, change her into her pajamas, feed her one last time, and cuddle and pray for her as she gets sleepy. Then I put her down, and Sam and I enjoy about an hour and a half of freedom before I head to bed. The first few nights, we were beside ourselves with excitement, like kids whose parents had left us alone for the evening.

We haven't gotten into a daytime routine that is quite as regular. I wish I could say that I was able to keep her on a 3-hour routine, as I do think it's very good for them to have that regularity, but she's often quite hungry ahead of schedule (I can't fault her for something she got from me, can I?), or falls asleep early or late in the 3-hour window. I can't bring myself to wake her up, just to try to get her back to sleep 45 minutes later, but I am trying to give her a basic routine of eating, playing a little, and then sleeping, within a timeframe close to 3 hours, especially ensuring that she's not awake for more than 2 hours at a time, after which time life becomes much less pleasant for everybody.

Mostly our days begin around 7:00, give or take a half hour, when she wakes up. I feed her, then put her back in her bassinet or cuddle with her in bed, hoping without a shred of optimism that she'll go back to sleep. As this inevitably does not happen, we get up at about 8:00, and she likes to eat again at about 9:00 and then take a nap of about 45 minutes. Everyone says "Sleep when the baby sleeps!" but I don't know how those people get any housework done, much less keep up with their friends' blogs. ;) So when she sleeps, I eat breakfast and read or race around dusting half a room for now, or starting loads of laundry.

And so it goes, a carousel of feedings and diaper changes and laundry, with some meal preparation for us, or errands, or walks outside on nice days thrown in. It's impossible but true that I've never been happier.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Trash

Thanks, everybody, for the book suggestions! I haven't made a final decision yet but am excited to have the recommendations, both for my class and for my own summer reading. (Though if I'm to be honest, my attention span for "lit-ra-ture" has been markedly lowered of late . . . )

Anyway, the name of this post wasn't intended to refer to my evolving taste in trashy reading. Though I've sampled some lowbrow chick lit in the past few months, the best book I've read lately is Barbara Kingsolver's Animal, Vegetable, Miracle, about her family's attempt to eat local foods for a year. It's elegant, funny, and trechant, and it includes recipes. And it showed me why the concept of local food would even be interesting.

I say "even" because in one part, the concept seemed axiomatic, and in another, it seemed impractical. Axiomatic because in the summer in South Jersey where I grew up, on many of the rural roads, you happen across fresh fruit, vegetable, and flower stands every few miles. Everybody has gardens, and my dad had an enormous one that produced the vegetables and fruits my mother canned and made into jams every summer and fall. I remember watching my mom lifting steaming jars of tomato sauce from a pot on the stove, or coming home from school to see her and my grandmother slicing bushels of peaches or apples for sauce.

But impractical because it seemed like it would be an incredibly restrictive diet when not living in South Jersey in the summer, and not necessarily better--even when I was growing up, some foods from other places were just considered to be better for their sheer exoticism (California tomatoes in January!) . . . if you needed to get it from somewhere else, it must be because it was better. Also, produce advertised as organic tended to be small and wormy back then, which is not the case anymore as the concept has become more popular, especially among choosier people.

Kingsolver addresses these concerns in the book, and makes it all sound very lavish and tasty, if labor-intensive. And the concept comes at the right time for me, as I find myself in the midst of a much more wasteful life, foodwise, than ever before. A two-adult household generates a huge amount more waste, because I cook every day (and one of us, ahem, is a very picky eater), whereas I used to cook every few days and eat with very little waste. Now I cook every day, and one of us (sorry, I've really got something stuck in my throat!) doesn't like leftovers (so sad!). Plus, on a non-food-related note, we have this baby whose whole set of belongings has come into the house all at once, meaning bags and bags and bags of packaging trash. I think we fill a bag every day, whereas I used to fill about one or two a week.

Then I saw this article in the New York Times about how much food Americans waste, and it made an interesting pairing in my mind with the photo essay from Pi of the food various families eat worldwide. I like having good, interesting, fresh food ingredients on hand, which does mean some waste sometimes as things spoil faster when you have more for variety's sake. And I also like reading magazines and having pretty clothes, can't deny it.

But all these things--my reading, the current economy, the stuff I'm surrounded with now that there are three of us--do make me notice a shift in my packrat ways. The greater clutter of two adults and a baby means that it's become more important to have less stuff around and comparatively less important to economize financially by keeping things around just in case. I tend to have stuff because of not getting rid of things more than because of acquiring them. This is why I have, for example, two big bags of lovely gift bags in which we received baby gifts--but how many baby gifts will I likely give in the near future? Is it better to save things to generate less waste overall, or get rid of them to have less stuff around? Is it better to buy smaller quantities of food for single uses, which involve more packaging and significantly higher cost (even when waste is factored in), but mean having less around and thus having things look simpler and cleaner, even if it means driving to the store more often?

What was it Socrates said about the over-examined life? I have a feeling this post is getting less and less coherent, but then I'm writing it while suffering simultaneously from extreme sleep deprivation and acute insomnia . . .

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Precocious

I asked Allison Clare what letter came after N and before P, and this is what she said:




Monday, May 12, 2008

Polling the Audience

So, anybody got any ideas for a sixth book? Twentieth century, American, good read?

Sunday, May 11, 2008

On Second Thought . . .

The Maya Angelou book is an autobiography, not a novel. Back to the drawing board . . .

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Thinking Out Loud

Lately I've been devising these courses just so that I can teach books I like (can that be my area of specialization?). Last January, I taught a 3-week course called Literary Prizes and Recent Prizewinners, just because it was the best way I could think of to group together three novels I was pretty interested in teaching. This coming fall, it's Great American Novels of the Twentieth Century--a course that at some schools would sound way too conventional to fly, but that here ended up with a pretty long waitlist (ah, how flattering . . . ).

Anyway, here is my list of books:

Willa Cather, O Pioneers!
F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby
Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird
John Steinbeck, East of Eden
Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings
John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany

I don't know that I would say they are definitively the best six books written during the century, but they're five that I love that teach well, plus one that I haven't yet read but am eager to (by Maya Angelou). And since I have a feeling the fall will involve a lot of new juggling, I want to teach some books that I know will succeed and engage students on their own, without too much of the cheerleading on my part that requires extra emotional energy.

I thought of trying to get Alice Sebold's The Lovely Bones on there somehow because I really want to teach that book some time soon, but these six cluster around a theme of American identity fairly well, and that one would be more of a stretch. Not that I'm so averse to stretching, but also, with such a short list of books, I figured maybe I owed them an all-classic list.

Maybe I'll do a January 2009 course and just call it Recent Popular Fiction and throw The Lovely Bones and whatever else I've been reading onto it. After all, these courses could theoretically make good gateways for teaching basic literary analysis. Why not?

This is one thing I love about my job--compelling others to read what I like. ;)